Friday, February 6, 2015

cherish the season

This year, 2015,
My goal is to use this blog as an outlet to be able to truly connect with people.
I believe we all have a story that's worth sharing + reading.
So here is part of my current story that is unfolding daily...

Warning, this post might get a little heavy,
but this topic has been on my heart for quite a while now.
I figured I would share a bit of my story...

My husband, Adam, & will be married three years, this coming June.
Around the one year mark, we I started receiving that question,
(all my lady friends- you can guess what that is..)
"when are you going to have babies?!?"
all. the. time.

At first, i didn't really mind.. because honestly,
we were in no hurry for little ones. We love(d) the time..with JUST US.
Knowing that once babies come along- that US time would become limited.

I was under the assumption, as soon as we started trying..
I would get pregnant right away. naturally, right?

well.. month after months of waiting, wishing, late periods,
and no signs of a baby.. i started to wonder..
what is wrong? this is what women are designed to do.
what is wrong with ME?

It felt as if everyone around me was getting pregnant
& having babies like crazy. It was like I couldn't escape thinking about it.
The more time that passed, the more upset I became.
The desire to have a baby, surpassed just about everything else in my life.
It started to trump some of my relationships & it quickly escalated.
I let jealousy feed my sadness + the emptiness I felt.

It was so frustrating, my friends were all having babies
(which lets be honest, babies are straight up miracles from God. it's incredible)
 I wanted to be all-in-excited for them,
but there was this part of me that just wanted to be just like them..
feeling those feelings, doing what God designed a woman to do.

I knew my heart was in need of a check.

Not only was I noticing these emotional changes,
I began to notice some drastic physical changes with myself too.
It seemed as if my body was out of whack.

I met with my doctor & had to follow up with test after test.
We were then sent to a fertility doctor,
who officially diagnosed me with PCOS in December 2014.
[PCOS: poly cystic ovarian syndrome]
to sum it up: it's a health condition that can cause hormone dysfunction..
which in turn can make it very difficult to get pregnant.
It also causes abnormal weight gain & trouble losing it..
(what every woman wants to hear..ugh)
oh and irregular periods, just to name a few issues.

At this point, we were trying for over a year+ now to get pregnant.
While this news was certainly overwhelming & hard to hear,
it was also helpful for taking the next steps.
I was told that this PCOS could lead to diabetes,
if it isn't maintained because it can't manage insulin intake properly.
This has fueled my desire to live a healthier lifestyle.
(hence the current whole30)
for not only me now, but for my future family.

We currently are on the fertility road, trying to make the best next choice.
Sometimes, these moments can be frustrating, to say the least,
but as this process moves on..I've learned to just
this season of just Adam & me....and Blue.
it is just that, a season.

I never even thought that we would be experiencing these moments,
but I know that there will be blessings that come from faithfulness.

I believe in my heart God is going to bless us with a baby one day.
[to be a mom, is something I've always felt I have been designed to become.]
I know this journey + these hurdles are all part of the process:
it has brought our family closer and more connected then ever.
I try and remember that I have the opportunity to CHOOSE joy through these steps.

It helps to also know that I'm not alone.
Unfortunately, a lot of women can relate to my story in some way.
That doesn't make things easier,
it just helps to know that out there someone else knows just how you feel.
These issues + the conversations that come out of similar experiences
can both heal & help through this interesting time of "in-between."

I'm currently in a she studies series at our church called: The Best Yes
I read these two quotes in our study & they both just tugged at my heart:

"God sees, God notices, God cares.
He gives us gifts of wisdom with each of our gifts of service.
God develops our character to match our calling."

"She stood in the reality of TRUTH
rather than the reality of her circumstances."
Her assurance came from the truth; the word of God.
-Lysa Terkeurst

This entire experience has brought me closer than ever to God.
I pray that I can continue to be faithful in His word + with my actions.
"With humility comes wisdom." [proverbs 11:2]

I'm extremely grateful for this platform to share what's on my heart.
Thank you for taking the time to read.
It really means a lot to me.


  1. So beautifully said. Thank you for sharing this.

  2. Oh how I love you and your heart, my sweet friend!! I am so glad God placed you in my life! I have clung to the verse "Blessed is she who believed the Lord would fulfill His promise to her." from Luke 1:45 for a few years now. When you have that absolutely, unmistakeable knowledge that God has meant you for something - for you, being a mom...for me it's been being a wife again - you cling to that hope. That promise that God would not give us this strong of a desire for something if it wasn't His will to fulfill it. It might not happen in the way we expect or hope for, but it WILL happen. I'm praying for you and with you!!

  3. Wow, what a beautiful blog! Thank you so much for sharing, a friend of mine sent me the link because she knows that I too have PCOS and have been struggling to conceive for the past year. It has taken a toll on me emotionally not to mention all the hormones I now am taking, I feel as though I am not a "normal" woman... why can't I have a baby naturally like everyone else? These are feelings and emotions I'm still working on, part of which I like to blame on the Clomid pill I just started last month haha! But it's very comforting to know there are a lot of women out there like us and you are very brave to share your story! I am here if you ever needed a shoulder to lean on, considering I know exactly what its like to go through what you're going through..I wish you lots and lots of baby dust XO

  4. Working as an OB/GYN nurse I know how heart breaking it can be when you have tried for a long time. I feel blessed to be able to work with incredible women just like you go through this journey. God definitely has a plan for your sweet family, even though we may question his timing everything will fall into place perfectly. You've got the right idea, even though it may be hard at times, enjoy the ride of life until you get there :) <3